我的願望

念小學時的願望是要當居禮夫人，因為不服氣有名的科學家都是男人。

念國中時的願望是要當李清照，因為不服氣有名的詩詞作家都是男人。

念高中時的願望是要當女權運動的先驅者西蒙波娃(Simone de Beauvoir)，因為不服氣社會思潮的影響者都是男人。

念大學時的願望是要當張愛玲，因為折服於她以女性細膩的觀感及對文字敏銳的掌握來說故事，在她每篇小說中展現令人無法抗拒的情節張力及文字魅力。

念碩士時的願望是要當像 Carl Rogers (雖然他是男性) 的教育者，因為折服於他倡導的 "freedom to learn" 的教育理念。 相信唯有尊重 respect 與信賴 trust，才能讓學生真正自由的學習。

念博士時的願望是要當像 Norman Fairclough (雖然他也是男性) 的批判言談分析家，因為折服於他以意識形態及權力關係對人際溝通及社會文化現象的剖析，也深刻瞭解到每個人都不是全然獨立的個體，人無法不受傳統社會文化的影響，但人又再重新塑造新的社會文化。

現在的願望是要當自己! 不再偏執的計較男人與女人的傳統角色扮演與社會貢獻，只想謙卑地當個對社會有用的人，或許再進一步，能讓世界因有我的存在而有些不同。

在瞭解自己每個階段不同的願望後，開始學著接受自己的不完美與現實的不可能；然後，在不完美與不可能的認知下，努力綻放自己雖有缺憾但卻獨一無二的迷人光采。

Quotes by Carl Rogers:

• The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.

• The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.

• When I look at the world I'm pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic.

• The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.

Quotes by Simone de Beauvoir:

• One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.

• To emancipate woman is to refuse to confine her to the relations she bears to man, not to deny them to her; let her have her independent existence and she will continue none the less to exist to him.

• I tore myself away from the safe comfort of certainties through my love for the truth; and truth rewarded me.

• To show your true ability is always, in a sense, to surpass the limits of your ability, to go a little beyond them: to dare, to seek, to invent; it is at such a moment that new talents are revealed, discovered, and realized.